Today we were supposed to work on the appearance of our blog but to be honest I am quite satisfied with what I have at the moment.
I’ve been thinking about appearance and how it effects the way others perceive and interact with us.
What does your appearance say about you?
If I look at the way people in the real world relate with me it seems to say that I am innocent. When I come upon someone in the city at night they think nothing of me, indeed I am always met with a look of relief when they find I am the person approaching from behind. My innocent face seems to suggest to people that I am both innocuous and approachable. People start conversations with me and entrust me to watch their belongings. On the other hand my face is a beacon to predatory men. When I get hit on it’s rarely the normal chat up. I’ve had men ask me if I would come into the forest with them. Who starts a conversation “I want to show you something in the forest?” A rapist, ax murderer possibly.
In school it was always assumed that I was intelligent because I was quiet and I went to class. But for the most part I seem to have a deer in the headlights look that suggests helplessness and incompetence. People do help me when I am in need. The flip side of that coin is that people advance on me very forcibly because they believe I will not stand up for myself.
Aside from my innocent face I am curvaceous which means I have to take a lot of care in what I wear because I can go from looking nice to looking provocative very easily. There are a lot of clothes I absolutely cannot wear and because I developed quickly and I am a pervert magnet I don’t enjoy clothes as much as I might if I could dress more freely. I thought I might be able to pull off a nice conservative librarian look nope I look like the naughty librarian even with non revealing clothes. I almost always wear clothes that are too big which means I end up looking slovenly and unprofessional. It’s never easy to find that balance.
Sam is mixed raced though his features bare a greater resemblance to his Palestinian heritage. How do people treat him? Often with prejudice and fear, at least initially. After 9/11 he met with extreme prejudice and there were times I genuinely feared for his safety. His strong dark brows make him look angry whenever he’s in direct sunlight and people literally jump out of his way. Sam is in reality very laid back and slow to anger. Even when he does get angry he’s articulate and diplomatic and never given to violence. He is trustworthy and quick to help others. Once people get to know him that becomes readily apparent.
How do people perceive you initially?